Saturday, May 30, 2015

Wills on Wheels(W.O.W)

Where there is A Will, there is a Way and this stands out to be true, in every walk of lives. The only thing that comes in our way is Procrastination. We dont give it a try all due 'Fear of Failure'. There are times that this Fear goes so Strong in our mind that it paralyzes ourselves, that we start believing it as a  reality.There are Optimist, Pessimistic  and then there are realistic People.

Its all about how you train your Subconcious mindset, under what External Circumstances you are exposed to and what are your Inner Circumstances, What kind of thoughts you digest and what kind of people you have around you decides your nature. Its good to be Optimistic,  it helps you boost up with Confidence and mostly Over Confidence.

Even the things you dont know you might End up saying Confidently . The Problem with being Optimistic is like, You might desire or start imagining  to have a Big Mansion, a Big Car, become Rich., a beautiful Wife, Incase those desires or Imaginations are not fulfilled, you will be having your own conflict with your subconcious Mind. Your Mind might become your greatest enemy.

Being Pessimistic again is dangerous... wherever you go, you will not try at all  because of fear of failure.Once your mindset is set 'Not to try at all' , that becomes your current reality.I can only say that Suffering is the Universal Fact of Lives, all the spiritual books claim it, but to grow out from it is optional.

Being Realistic is something not everybody possess, it like seeing the Surroundings, the people around you without having any Filter  of Judgement and Expectations. When you see a small Child, he has no judgement, no expectations , but he has Intelligence. We might think that the Child cannot  understand , but we are wrong.He captures our Every single Speech and Movements. We all need to practice being a Realistic thinker like a small child and later on add little bit of Optimism within it and it becomes Realistic Positive Thinking.  I would say I am lucky enough, that I got an Opportunity to meet 'Realistic Positive Thinker', Priti Shetty who is the youngest Entrepreneur  for the Start-Up firm 'Wills on Wheels'.

It was just an Intuition , that i called her yesterday on Saturday Morning, if I  can meet her and interview her to know 'How life is like being in a wheel chair for 12-14 hours a day, what kind of, problems she  has faced, what inspires her, what she likes and what she does in her day to day activities.

The response from her side was just Awesome... when she started speaking she kept on speaking for hours and she was very much assertive in her speaking skills. In short she was much better then me.Whatever she spoke had clarity and the narration she made was like, I never had a dull movement. Since this was my first Interview I was taking, I was a bit Nervous, but her approached nature and friendly attitude took it away. With her Automated wheel Chair and a Laptop on her desk. She works as a Online Marketeer and using 'Wills On Wheels' as an Organization, she wants to Unite disabled people with a different Set of Mind Set.

What inspired you to come up with this NGO ?

Satyameva Jayate  Program which was aired in 2010 on Televsions Channels Inspired us to come up with this Idea. By the People For the People. We wanted People like us, who are disabled to get into a comman Platform, to build up their Confidence level. and once their Confidence level is built , they themselves can bring change in their lives. Whatever we are doing intially might not be that much interesting for them.But whatever we are doing I am confident, it will bring drastic change in their lives.We went through lots of brain Storming sessions initially to  understand, what will be the Mission and the Vision.It took 6 months just to come up with this, since we needed Clear Goals and Ideas for the same.We have already started with our Online Vibrant Community, who can register on our website as a Volunteer or a 'Person on a Wheel Chair'.

What Kind of Programs do you Conduct?

We conduct various Awareness Spreading Programs in Malls. We recently did it in RMALL. We conducted Outing for 40 Wheel Chair peoples, because they dont go out. I am  lucky , since we have got a better transportation mode, lovely family to take care of  us, Too be honest with you, I never felt  , I was disabled, I had a very Normal Life. I never felt any Kind of Hurdle, when we are doing something. Currently we can do whatever we can at Smaller levels, since we have our own Bodily Constraints.Sometimes we fall sick easily since we dont have strong immunity System. Also Transporataion is the main problem, since Wheel Chairs are not accessible everywhere.Whatever time we get we dedicate.
For instance in Mulund East, we had a survey to check where and all Ramps are installed to make wheel chairs accessible, which banks we can access easily, which banks we cant. We collated all the data for the same. Since we want to do some Constructive work and not like doing a Program and  leaving it later on. We also train people to  get Work from Home Opportunities. That is when we formed this company. We formed this as Section 25 Company and not like a charitable trust and want to only employ Wheel Chaired persons.Its not like we are baised, but these people might not get Opportunity elsewhere.

How was your Childhood like?

Childhood was awesome, just like any other child.We never cared for anything.So we do not bother about Society ki 'Log kya Kehenge'. We never considered ourselves to be different from anybody else, to be very frank.We went through Normal College, Normal School, teacher and everybody were like awesome.

But now when we have opened up this NGO, we have met so many people, who have gone through so many problems and when I hear it, I feel I am the luckiest. I always expected one thing from everybody that is to be Co-Operative and I got it through my teachers, Principles and friends.
'Theek hai Classes Niche Rakenge Uper Nahi, Theek hai tumara Project hum extend karnege' is the responses I used to get from my Teachers and Principles. The Co-Operation Level was very High.We have the tendancy to fall Ill quite often, so whenever we used to Fall Ill, they used to give extra time for Exams. But when I went for Interviews there I faced lots of Challenges..Even I got rejected by the HR on Telephonic rounds, just because I cannot walk.

Any additional activities that you perform?

We have a small Entertainment Team. We write stories, search locations for shooting etc thats my thing.I am a very creative  person, a Writer, a Singer. When I went for recordings, dubbing recordings, there also i struggled a lot.Accessiblity Constraints was the issue. People always say that I have a good level of Confidence.

What kind of Awareness you are spreading through this program?

  • Accessibility
  • Work From Home
  • Travelling

What is your views on Spirituality?

Something that drives us. Its the only thing that drives us. I was associated with ISKCON in Juhu long back and used to practise Chanting the Hare Krishna Mantra, to some extent it has tried to give me a peace of mind. I admire Srila Prabhupada Videos.

How do you handle your daily activities?

I wake up @10:30 AM. I have a habit of thinking a lot and I keep on writing.I sit for 11-12 hours in a wheel chair and doing our activities related to Online Earning and focus on it only.The pain is always there but we focus on our activities only.If we focus on Pain we wont be able to focus on our activites.

Are you able to perform any Kind of Excercies?

We have done Physioteraphy most of the times from Childhood. We took all kind  of Medicines. We are like the Guinea pigs and all kinds of experiements Humare uper oh chuke hai.So now we are not interested in any kind of treatments.Our time is so packed, that we dont get time to do any additional activities.We cant do any kind of Physical activity, even our Hands cannot move much.We cant balance our body also.We can sense when a Mosquito bites it. Our Sensory things are not disturbed.We have so many Physical Constraints , but mentally we are so strong that it doesnot makes any differnce.

We have seen people that before accident, they were perfectly alright and  leading a normal life,After accident they cant do anything, they are like completely Vegetable. They cant sense, they cant move , they cant do anything,and for them moving out is also a big issue. They say that people will look at us. For US WE DON'T CARE. So there are different scenarios and different Psychological things in and out.They are not ready to accept the fact.

Who Inspires you a lot?

My Mom. Her Dedication, Support and Patience has made us much stronger Human Beings. She has Epitome of Patience.

We all are trying to lead a Normal life. Thats it. we need  Accessible India. Once we get that, Person like me and Prasad will outburst and go where Every Normal person can go and Hang out.

                                                                                                                  -Priti Shetty

Saturday, February 14, 2015

Thank you Srila Prabhupada

Since this is my last day in Bengaluru, wanted to share why I started loving this city. Its not because its known for its Big IT Hub or Lucrative Lifestyle people living here. The life here might look glittering, but reality strikes when People come here getting attracted to this Glittering life which in the end turns out to be Poisionous.

Bangalore has been recorded as the Highest Suicidal Rate in the City and lakhs of people are gone under depression. I would have been one of the persons if Srila Prabhupada  through his devotees and his Books wouldnt have come into my life.I only know how did I started balancing my Work life.

First time, I came to Bangalore there were Bill boards screaming PG for Rent at just 3000-4000 Rs. I was very much happy but as time passed by I started observing that I have lost 10 Kg of Weight and the Roommates at times were intolerable and used to fight for silly reasons. The association of such Roommates was very disturbing and everyday thought crept in me why I came to Bangalrem, leaving my family and paying such hefty amount for a lousy room.

Also Food posed to be a greatest problem in PG. It has made me unhealthy, Lean and was kind of Morose because of the Worklifestyle in office.

I was a meat eater, and my mind used to go here and there like a small monkey for some Movies, Songs, eating Meat in restaurants ,getting attracted to girls etc and always had a vision of myself becoming Successful in my material life.

Then one day at Marthalli Bridge, some hefty person was distributing this Complimentary Pass -- "Secret of Success" and at the bottom of  the leaflet, there was  a small logo named Akshaya Patra(Free Dinner Meals) written on it.

I was attracted by these two words  "Success" and "Free Meals".

The Program was supposed to start on sunday in the evening. When I came for the program, I was surprised to see a Swamiji or a Monk standing writing something on a whiteboard and was very fleunt in speaking English.

The topic being covered was 'Laws of Karma', and was totally stunned by the way it was being presented. How Systematically it was being explained having a workflow diagram drawn on the white board and the Projecter projecting the Powerpoint presentation on the LED Wall Sheet covering 'each and every aspect of Karma' and in the end the delicious Feast Prasadam was being served, which you will not get even in 5 star Hotels of Bangalore

This very first lecture started by Amitasana Prabhu was a turning point of my life. From that time I started coming for the sessions every weekends and for the first time in life I had broomed and mooped the entire temple and also started cleaning the vessels. The things that I never did at home, I started doing it in a temple and really started enjoying associating with devotees.

It was indeed Srila Prabhupada's Mercy that though I had a Hectic lifestyle.. he gave me a spirtual lifestyle to balance out the same.

Within two months I joined FOLK(Folk of Lord Krishna ) Hostel, where Like Minded people who are inquisite about understanding Bhagvad Gita and have willingness to change their lifestyle like
sleeping early by 9:00 PM and waking up by 5:00 AM
Doing Mangala Aarti from 6:00 Am to 6:30 AM
Chanting Hare Krishna Maha Mantra from 6:30 AM TO 7:00 Am
Listening Bhagvad GIta Classes being preached by temple devotees from 7:00 AM TILL 8:00 AM

Having Breakfast Prasadam from 8:00 AM Till 9:00 AM

It was not easy Initially staying at FOLK Hostel since changing the Lifestyle was a big challenge. But slowly when it became an Habit , and eventually It started feeling good.

This was all possible because of ISKCON Bangalore Devotees and all thanks to Srila Prabhupada for starting up this Moment, because of which ISKCON Bangalore Emerged at RajajiNagar, which has been instrumental in transofrming my life to certain extent.

As days passed by, I automatically became a vegetarian and trust me ask any Non-Veg person to stop eating, its practically impossible. Only because of Intaking Prasadam Lords Mercy was bestowed upon me, which reminded me that  'Body is temple and not a graveyard'.

Also when i started Chanting Hare Krishna MAHA Mantra for the first time, I noticed my mind being quite and still and all the stress, anger, confusion etc that has come due to office work or associating with different sets of people have gradually disappered.

Also the books especially the  'Science of Self-Realization' was an eye-Opener for me which explained everything about Bhakti Yoga in a simplified, Systematic and Scientific manner. The Defintion of God, given in the very first chapter itself was very amusing,

And all this was possible because of Srila Prabhupada, who compiled huge volume of  books at the age of 70, who toured the World more then 12 times to preached the message of Bhagvad Gita and made devotees worlwide irespective of Caste, Creed and Sex.

Because of Srila Prabhupada, I came to understand the true meaning of Religion. I used to be athiest before, but when his books started talking to me and giving proper explanation of Religion without any Interpretation. It was completly clear that, I am under the right authority.

His sentence

"Religion without philosphy is sentiment and Philosophy without speculation is Mental Speculation"

Just because I came in touh with Srila Prabhupada and ISKCON BANGALORE devotees, I started seeing the world with its current Reality and whatever practially is explained in Bhagvag Gita, I was able to experince it in my day to day life activities.

I came here to work in a better Project and earn more, but I got much better things and that the main thing required to progress in Spirtuality since that is the Main aim of Human Life, that is to understand God and become God Concious and that is possible only by being under the association of Devotees.

I am very much indebted to Srila Prabhupada for having placed such a Wonderful Organization worldwide and giving an opportunity for a unqualified  and fallen down person like me to understand the Essence of Bhagvad Gita and giving me Krshna Prasadam all the three times and giving me your Protection  and assisting me during Difficult times.

And the reason I like Bengaluru is not because of its Big IT Hub , but because of ISKCON Bangalore who are propogating Srila Prabhupada's message to all the Intelluctual class in Bangalore so that they can understand what real Happiness is and finally how we can reclaim Humanity


Sunday, June 1, 2014

OverComing Anger

What is Anger?
It is a strong feeling of annoyance, displeasure or Hostility.
It can be said a response to a frustration, a sudden or a violent displeasure which sometimes makes you to retaliate.

Lets try to understand what happens when we get Angry. Face is an index of the mind.When we see an angry man we can make out by his face.

So Lets see the manifestation of Anger.

What happens to

 The Toungue--- It starts doing insults, ready to curse
 The Hands--- Are ready to fight
 The Legs--- Are ready to either run or Kick

 The Mind--- You feel that everything is going against you, even the smallest point which  is not in agreement with  you, you make a Mountain of a Whole and your Mind stops working.You fail to discriminate what is Right, What is Wrong. In a fit  of Rage, in an impulse, we end up doing something ending something and then we regret.

Have you experienced this?

I am very much sure almost everyone of you reading this must have experienced this, where at a point you might have got extremely angry and lost control on your senses.

Your Heart starts pounding, sometimes you start sweating, all the adrenaline, non andrenaline Hormones starts rushing in your veins, which makes sure that you either Fight or Flight.

It is said in Bhagvad Geeta when your body becomes angry your all your body starts manifesting a symptom that is very very unfavorable.

One out of four People feel that , they should not really get angry.Such kind of People are short fused.Long relationships are broken, just because of Outburst of Anger.Relationships are easily getting broken.

 64% of the people agree that they are getting angrier, they are getting more restless, its all because of frustration. We talk about so many technology, media which is easily accessible to the mass of people, on the downside people are actually loosing their mental strength.They are loosing their moral values. Although we have all kinds of Messenger, watapps etc, people are getting more and more Hostile.

In anger you not only harm yourselves, but you harm others around you.

Lets now Try to Understand the Cause of Anger

We will find wonderful analysis given by Krishna in the Bhagvad Geeta

Krishna says anger arises on the contemplation of sense Objects second chapter verse Number 62

                                                        dhyayato vishayan pumsah 
                                                            sangas teshupajayate 
                                                            sangat sanjayate kamah 
                                                             kamat krodho 'bhijayate

It simply refers when a man contemplates on Sense Object,  he develops attachment and that attachment when it becomes more intensified, it results in Lust or intense desire and when that Lust or intense desire is not fulfilled , you get  angry. Desire is the Younger Brother of Anger.

When desire is not fulfilled Anger erupts.

   Now lets refer to the below FlowChart on how Anger arises.

 When we Contemplate on Sense Objects , we develop attachment to it, when attachment is not fulfilled,  our Memory gets bewildered on the wrong path or our Memory decreases, because of that we are in Delusion  and finally we loose our Intelligence, we cant distinguish between what is Right, what is Wrong, What is good or Bad and we fall. We all have experienced this , and Krishna has beautifully explained this with very good Analysis.

Lets have an activity make sure you have a Pen and Paper along with you. i am going to write to a Story  pertaining to our topic your job is to map the below story with the above Workflow Chart Diagram  and get to Know how the Analysis of Krishna is Perfect. So lets start the name Topic of the Story is
                                                              Acid Rage

You can see the picture of the girl, before and AfterShe was attacked by a fellow classmate with is a very sad story, I came across this.This girl her name is Lakshmi.She was from a below middle class background and she was  from Tamil Nadu and with great difficulty she managed to  get a seat in Madhurai medical College and that was a  very momentous ocassion for their family, because for the first time somebody is going to be the doctor in their family and she joined the college.In college what happens is, in the premises there is a common canteen where all the boys and girls come together and have their meals together. So shes going to the classes attending all the lectures on Anatomy, on BioChemistry, Phsiology these are all the subjects.So as a part of their lab they divide the students  into ten.In her batch was a boy called Rahul, but this boy was also from a similar background and his father was a tailor, with great difficulty sacrificing his comfort zone and making savings, taking a bank loan of five lakhs, managed to get a Seat and it was similar ocassion of Joy seeing that a tailors Son is going to become a doctor. This boy was having a friends circle in the boys Hostel who were from a little affluent background. and they were  all more or less having girlfriends and they  used to spend their  weekends with their girlfriends, going by to nearby joints etc.Because he had this kind of friends he also had a desire that he should also have a Girlfriend and becacuse she was a Girl from the similar background, he started making some advances to strike a relationship.He tried his best by presenting her a Rose, getting her a cadbury and all types of things and this  girl because she was Pious and background where there is fearful of parents and well cultured, she didnt had any such inclinations to  be in a relationship that is pre-marital affiar.The boy kept on insisting but she refused  consistently.He was seeing that his friends are enjoying, they are having bikes and taking girlfriends on the back and roaming and he had nobody.So he felt that if he cant have this Girl then let me teach her a lesson that nobody should get attracted to her because she has made my Love  a failure and this boy acting foolishly forgetting the purpose what he has come for the medical college, forgetting the ambitions of his parents and not concerned about the future that he will ruin his Career, ruin his studies everything, he thought a way of disfiguring her face, what he ended up doing was this, he brought  a bottle of Sulphuric acid and while she was returning back after having dinner from mess, that he throwed acid on her face in a very secluded place covered with trees, after that she had gone through tremendous suffering, she has to do lots of plastic surgeries, first of all she is coming from a family where there is poverty and she couldnot afford all these and she lost ambition in her life, shes disfigured and she was hospitulized , fortunately she didnot get hurt and this boy was arrested, his studies got discontinued, brought great shame to his family and this boy was later on Lamenting ''why did this all happened?, what went wrong? why did I do like this?"'

So make a flow chart as per the what you read above and try to map it with the above flow chart that is with respect to 'Contemplation of Sense Object', attachment, undesired fullfillment, anger etc., fitting as per the analysis of Krishna

So Most of you must have noted down your points in a paper, here is the below things most of you must have jolted down,

Here the Girl is the Sense Object. The Guy wanted to enjoy girl because he was influeced by his friends circle and she was within her status. Because of his friends Influence he got attached and attachment to desire and since the girl was not agreeing and his desire was not fulfilled, his undesired lust turned into anger,
because of Anger, the guy was in dellusion making his own mental speculation , as ' what this girl thinks about herself'','Am I so ugly' etc instead of focusing on studies and his memory started detoriating and finally when he lost his intelligence he did the stupidity of pouring acid on girls face.

Also think you must have gone through such scenarios where you just lost anger and you fall down, may be your Job, relationships etc.

Theres another factor that needs to be deliberated when  we are trying to understand anger and that is influence of a Guna called RajoGuna also Known as Mode of Passion which leads to Anger.

What are these Gunas?
These are three chareteristics by which Material Nature, she influences the conciousness of the Jeeva and she does it by three ways
Satvaguna----> Mode of Goodness
Rajoguna---> Mode of Passion
Tamoguna---> Mode of Ignorance

It must by very much clear that people in mode of Passion has much more desires and when their desires are not fullfilled  anger develops.Our bodies actually are combination of these three modes,because of these combination of Gunas  some sleep more, some eat more, some wake up early, some get angry easily etc.

Nobody is having only one Guna, its all a mixtures. These Modes are also influenced by the food we eat, For instance to be in Satvaguna or Mode of Goodness we can have fruits or where we stay for example if we stay in forest we will be in the mode of goodness

Mode of Goodness are those who are inclined towards charitable work, spirtual realization, Mantra meditation etc

As all of you are staying in town you are either in the Mode of Passion or Ignorance, Passionate people do more and more materiastic work try to get fame, name money compete with others.

Ignorant Mode just dont care they go to a Bar, Brothel, do drugs etc.

so here itself you have your answer on how to control anger . From Rajogna we need to be more inclined to  Satvaguna.

Having Higher percent of Satvaguna in our Guna will desire to what extent we will get anger, We will have all the three modes, but we have to make sure that Satvagunas percentage is more.

Being in Satvaguna means having mostly satvic food mostly Organic Raw Food and being must inclined towards Spirtuality thus satisfying the Soul and keeping Lord in the Center for almost everythimg.

So now you know the secret try to inculate being in the Mode of Satvaguna,  which will in reality help reduce anger within you

Saturday, May 24, 2014

True Love

This is something inSeperable, just like one cannot  seperate Heat and light from fire or sugar without sweetness, like that the nature to Love is a Natural Intrinsic feeling within every Living beings.Within Animals also there is Wonderful expression of Love for instance A Dog  Caressing her pups or Cow nurturing her Calf with her sackful of Milk with no expectation.Whenever there is threat destined on a Son, youll find that the Mother will go to any extreme.Like this we find that this is all pervading within a Mother and A Child
between Brothers or Brother and Sister
father and Son and so on.

This feeling of Love, which is something so special, that we want to hold on to.We  never want it to let it go.We want that all the  Loving relationships become stronger and stronger, so that the love Increases and we want it to last really long.We all want Loving relationships to be more active and that relationship to grow deeper and deeper and last really long , but its always not possible because after all we are living in this Material World in this high paced society constantly upgrading ourselves with latest technological or Management  Knowledge just to Survive.We all have heard Survival of the fittest and to be the fittest, all of them are trying to Master over each other, nobody wants to be the Servant or Submissive.Your Team Lead might order you to do this with no regards whether you are really be interested to do that specific task or your Manager will tell your Team Lead to force Members to get this task completed , even though your Team Lead wont be liking it.

In todays world  when we are Karmi's(Working Class) we Love others with expectation of something from others.Because of this we are seeing lots and Lots relationships breaking up, divorce rates going up in ITes and BPO especially in Bangalore, just because they are not happy with each other.

There are so many attempts done by the opposite sexes to find their Love.But the Unfortunate part of this is there are so many false Love, which includes its own Challenges, Especially with the Youth.We actually want to Love Somebody and want to be loved by somebody and we want to go all extent to develop that relation but then, we find that it is not lasting , there are disturbances and  we find that even if it lasts, its shallow, expensive.

So my Question to you all, Is it really possible to experience True Love?

PS: True Love here is not on context with only boy and a Girl , It can be between Father and Son/Daughter, Mother and Son/Daughter, Between Brother or Sisters.

Yes we can experience True Love. The very first point we have to Key In  is have

No  Expectations:
Sometimes in Life a Father may expect his Son to become a Big Doctor or Engineer, but his Sons Inclination might be totally different which might cause disturbance in the relationship between Father and Son.Having Expectation in Workplace, like Manager having that this particular Employee will complete all my tasks and when its not fulfilled Professional relationships go haywire.In reality the Situation makes us Expect from someone and vice-versa. Just imagine if we have no Expectation with whom we are close with, will we experience disappointment?


When we are on the top everyone Likes us.The Moment we are pulled down due to time, place and circumstances very few people stand besides us.Identifying them and treasuring them is one of the most important things in Life.If nobody is besides you just remember there this Almighty Lord or Supreme Personality of Godhead always with you loving you with no expectation , but you too make an Habit to reciprocate to God's Love.Donot pray him only when you have some Material desires, pray his all the time, Thank him for whatever you have. He has much better plans then you have for yourself.

I have seen people when people suffer in their current circumstaces , they approach God.In a way its good, but approaching only when you are in Problem is not right.God has feelings to.

 Krishna in Bhagvad Geeta says "Surrender Onto me, I shall free you from all these Material Sufferings"'

What are these Material Sufferings?

Lord Liberating you from the Cycle of Birth Death Oldage and Disease is the highest form of transdental Love you will ever get.

Accept the one as He/She is and help He/She to Improve on it

Accept the fact that,Your Mother, Father, Girlfriend, Boyfriend, Brother or Sister, Son or a Daugher get Angry/Sad/depressed for all silly reasons and make that understand what aspect needs to be improved.

At times you might need to show the right level of anger to the Right person at the right place and the Right time and it should be controlled.

Have Patience, If you feel that you need to Change yourself , Go For it.

Mutual Understanding plays a Key Role in this case.

The Supreme God having differnt names for differnt people is So mercyful and accepts us as we are and gives us a  freewill to be his friend  with his full patience.But our Love toward Material desire is so Strong that we want Bodily Comfort , without caring for what our Soul actually needs.We donot understand that once Soul in Nurtured we will come to know the absolute Truth.

We are actually Spiritual beings with Human Experience. We still dont understand that this body is temporary and this bodily relationships are also temporary. Even though our Relationships are Awesome with everyone, there is one factor that is going to end these relationship, that is Death,  death will come to everyone of us sometime and at that time all the relationships will be lost.

The true love everyone has experienced is that of a mother/Father and son.They serve and care so much that they have no expectation.But that is not always the case,they have internally some expectation like , tommorw when I grow Old , My Son/Daugther will take care of me or he will fulfill my desires.. so there is some ambition, there is some desire, there is some expectation also..In ideal case you might find some relationships with no expectation thats quite difficult.

True Love is like Whether the person cares for me or not, he or she is going to be my beloved.Its very rare to find relationships like this, probably in movies youll find such relationships.

If you have experienced True Love or came across such , please do let me know I will be fortunate to meet you personally.

But one thing is for certain to experience True Eternal Love that is with the Supreme Lord we need to get ourselves Self-Realized.Once we experience it, we will know the real fact about the absolute Truth.

Hope you enjoyed reading my new article on True Love.Please do  provide me your precious comments or feedback that will help me to become a better writer.

Friday, April 25, 2014

Importance of Human Life

Human Life is very rare.Around you ,you see so many species. There are around 84 lakh species.Human birth is very very rare and Human being is the only creature that can think rationally.In Science also there is a saying that Human being is a rational animal.So we have been given the facility to think rationally and question to reason, to Inquire.

Animals also have Intelligence, they also have senses, they also have a body, they also have desire to enjoy, but they cannot make such inquires, they speak their own languauges.Dont think that Humans are the only once who can speak.Birds are chirping in the Morning when they wakeup , we feel that they are just making some sounds, actually they are communicating.We are yet to learn the language of the birds.

When Krishna was in Vrindavan, he used to speak the language of  the birds, of the Cows, of the peacocks. So they also communicate, but the subject matter of communication is not very great among the lower species. So Human life has a purpose and that Purpose has been singled out as 'Self-Realization'. This is important because we all are seeking Happiness. Joy it is in our nature.


So in order to really experience Happiness, which will give us true pleasure that Happiness you are seeking, is by knowing our Actual Self .

Now the clue to this Understanding who we are, is given in the scriptures, somebody may not take the help of the scriptures and directly they may try it to find out, Who Am I? What is my actual nature?

But such direct Inquires are not very fruitful. It just like somebody wants to do about  mathematics but they dont go to School, they dont Systematically study of which is already known, they may discover on their own stuffs like Numbers , algebra, Calculas, trigonometry everything.

Very Systematically only, One can learn and go further rapidly.Same way , in Scriptures the Knowledge is Systematically presented and you can just learn that and do your exploration.In fact the Scriptures are so perfect that all knowledge is available, unlike the modern system of education where its available to certain limit, beyond that they have to do further research , further exploration.

Here Complete Knowledge is available , so you can save time.If you take this knowledge by proper method you can save time.If somebody goes School they save time and learn the Basics in a much better way.Similarly if you read the scriptures Systematically, then you save time, So in Scriptures it is explained
'We are not this Body We are Spirit Soul'

So this Spirit Soul means that our Happiness is Spiritual not Material.Body is  of one Nature called material nature, matter, of which we have experience.


But there is also something called spirit which is different of matter. So that spirit has got different Characteristic , different nature. So our Happiness actually that we are really seeking, even though we donot exactly know what it is, it is actually Spiritual Happiness, that will truly make us happy.

That Spiritual Happiness is available in our relationship or connection with the Supreme Spirit Krishna and that Relationship should be that of Love between yourself and Krishna , that essence is called Self-Realization.

Now if somebody wants to really discover this or understand this, through analytical Study of
what is this body?
what is matter?

Then it takes a lot of time.But  when we are given this knowledge ,there is a method to actually understanding this and realizing this knowledge.A simple method called Bhakti Yoga, then quickly we come to the platform of understading this reality in a very very very very Short time.So this understanding is given in the Scriptures espectially the Bhagvad Geeta and Srimad Bhagvatam.

Here it is explained that to understand this, to quickly realise this to appreciate this knowledge, temple of Lord is really essential

When people sometimes here the word Temple, people have a very narrow understanding of What a temple is. Temple  means that which functions one more dieties ,Idols or statues and people go there to offer prayers, Worship. But actually a temple is more then that. A temple is actually the place where one should actually connect and get Self-Realization. Any temple traditionally, there are so many things happening in addition to worshipping of the Lord in the form of a dieties. If you visit Ancient temple, the temple itself has a structure that is very very very big,

for Instance the Jagannath Puri Temple

Or the Srirangam Temple Temple of Ranganathan
so huge the temples are  why because there are so many activities going on, so primarily the temple is the center for learning Spiritual Subject Matter, just like you have school , colleges and differnt institutions where they teach differnt Subject matters. Like that a temple is a place where we can learn Spiritual Subject matter. Then temple is a place where you can practise certain Bhakti yoga principle.One of the principles of Bhakti Yoga is worship. Worshipping of the diety form of the Lord .because we already  have a relationship with the Lord which is  covered and that relationship has to be uncovered and one of the way to uncover the relationship is to worship the Lord.. Worshipping is an Act of Love. Offering something to the beloved.

Just like a boy and a Girl when they meet they exchange some Sweet Words, they Exchange some gifts or they share some delicious food item or they sing and dance together so similarly with God there is Love in the heart simply  it has to be uncovered. Simply worshipping the Lord is Uncovering the Love within our hearts.   
Krishna Says in Bhagvad Geeta If you offer with Love me a leaf,Flower, fruit or water, I accept it. Our own devotion is awaekned by this Act. 

Generally everyone is born into Ignorance, specially Ignorance about God , 

We try to establish relationship around people first of all with our Mother, then Father, brother, Sister, friends  and then so many other people,  but none of those relationships can give us the real Happiness, because the nature  of the relation ship is between two limited persons, every one except the Lord is Limited.So how can we reciprocate and  how much can we give and take is limited. When we develop a Relationship with Certain people, we feel like talking with them, but how long can we go on talking talking eventually we will get bored... 

How long does the HoneyMoon lasts. Because they are Limited person they cannot recieve unlimited Love., that is only possible with unlimited person Krishna or Lord. You can Love Krishna as much as you want to offer and recieve love from Krishna as much as you want.. This act of giving and reciveing Love  is Worship.

But in beginning this worship has to be regulated, because when we approach Krishna, we  might approach him in a matter of fact that he is one of us But actully he is not a Limited person like us. and secondly he is not in need like any of us. He is not in need of Love, he is not seeking Love or Joy or Happiness like we are seeking. His Level is different his position is differnent. so to recognise how to relate with him , the steps we have to take is one of regulation. So there are some  simple rules.

What are those Simple Rules?

you go through a person who knows Krishna , who has already established a relationship with Krishna and such a person is called Guru or the Spiritual Master. So go through Guru. Guru will introduce you to Krishna properly and actually when proper introduction is there, developing that relationship becomes very smooth and very easy.Otherwise there can be so many misundertandings .

The First misunderstanding is 'He is Like us' , thats completly wrong. He is not like one of us.Even  though there are common qualities, we share with Krishna, there are some differnces also.So its simple regulation is begin by worshipping that consists of Singing for Krishna or prayers to Krishna , Gloryfying him and offering some Flower or food stuff or some nice ediables and Krishna reciprocates everytime you offer. Krishna recognises when you offer prayers and he reciprocates with you inside your heart.When you bow down to him again in your heart he reciprocates. When you give him food he reciprocates back by giving you back the food in form of Prasadam. 

What is Prasadam?
He induces Love in that foodstuff and gives it back to you.So when you eat that you are able to experience the Love for Krishna. You see when you eat the food Prepared by your Mother at home with love , it is not same as eating in the restaurant cooked by some commercial guy who  simply cooks for some money making a business. So when you offer food to krishna , it returns it back with Love and that is called Prasadam. Even if you cannot offer you can easily recieve prasadam, that is the Mercy of Krishna and taste the Love.

Krishna is not a person like us. He is a very refined person. He is a perfect Gentlemen who is very Sensitive. So we should learn how to reciprocate with him, interact with him how to approach him. A little  refinement in our Conciouness, our Behaviour is required because we have taken wrong habits in association with other cruel people. Certain types of Interactions we have learnt we have picked up. which is not actually refined, not a true Gentlemen
Our relationship with others is always a selfish Interest

Like when We talk or connect with somebody , We think what  we can get from this person, this is not the charecteristic of Love.LOVE means what  can i offer for the other persons pleasure or happiness. So go to Krishna not with the Idea of what you can get from Krishna, go with the Idea that What I can offer to Krishna.

So you never go to Krishna asking something for yourself. Always approach him to offer him something just to reciprocate, just to establish relationship, that is Important. 

Temple is a Place
where you are able to worship, able to participate in differnt activities for exchange of his Love  and  certain days are special days (festivals) where there is special offerings, special programs, special decorations, special type of interaction, we take a lord on a special stroll and for the pleasure of lord and devotees there will be special dance festivals . This is just to revive the 
relationship with the Supreme Personality.

In Vedic Literatue it is mentioned that everyday is a festival its said 'Nityam Mahotsava'.

Material World is a discouraging place, everybody is out there to exploit each other.even though welfare activities are there they always have some selfish Interests.But with Krishna there is no question of Selfish Interest. So Vedas are mentioned to revive the lost relationship with Krishna. The priest in the temple who  worships the Lord is supposed to impart vedic Knowledge, but it is rarely happening. Devotees  should ask the Priest questions as  
whom they are Worshipping 
Why they are worshipping
What is the Spiritual Science behind it
What is the background Knowledge for the same.

So Temples and festivals are so important and so relevant for everyone.

All  relationships are temporary and perishable.Everybody is going to die, so all these bodily relationships are meaning less actually.In a past life somebody must have started loving relationship with everyone , but what happened to that relationship, its a body and its all gone.But relationship with Krishna is not like that. Krishna is Eternal , Soul are eternal, our relationship with him is eternal and this  is possible only in the Form of Human Life

Sunday, July 7, 2013

Guide to a Better Life

Guide to a Better Life

Randy Pausch, 47 yrs old Computer Science lecturer from Carnegie Mellon University, died of pancreatic cancer in 2008.Before his death, he wrote a book 'The last lecture" , one of thebestsellers in 2007. What a legacy to leave behind... In a letter to hiswife and his children, he wrote this beautiful "guide to a better life"for his wife and children to follow.


1. Don't compare your life to others'. You have no idea what theirjourney is all about.

2. Don't have negative thoughts of things you cannot control.Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment.

3. Don't over do; keep your limits.

4. Don't take yourself so seriously; no one else does.

5. Don't waste your precious energy on gossip.

6. Dream more while you are awake.

7. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need..

8. Forget issues of the past. Don't remind your partner of his/hermistakes of the past. That will ruin your present happiness.

9. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don't hate others.

10. Make peace with your past so it won't spoil the present.

11. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.

12. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn.Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.

13. Smile and laugh more.

14. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.


15. Call your family often

16. Each day give something good to others

17. Forgive everyone for everything

18. Spend time with people over the age of 70 & under the age of 6

19. Try to make at least three people smile each day

20. What other people think of you is none of your business

21. Your job will not take care of you when you are sick. Your familyand friends will. Stay in touch.


22. Put GOD first in anything and everything that you think, say and do.

23. GOD heals everything

24. Do the right things

25. However good or bad a situation is, it will change

26. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up

27. The best is yet to come

28. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful

29. When you awake alive in the morning, thank GOD for it

30. If you know GOD you will always be happy. So, be happy.


Paying Guest Experience.

Hi Folks, here I am sharing some Not so Unique Experience , because most of the students/ Engineers and Software professionals have experienced this, the moment they get Location Transfer. The first main challenge itself is searching for a good Paying Guest accomodation.Trust me its not so easy I had to change 4 Rooms, in search of getting something reasonable. The first room was very horrible... this was the day when I was first introduced to bed Bugs. The owner unecessarily took  1000 Rs as advance and made me suffer for 2 days.  I shouted at him the third day for not keeping the room clean and worst of all the bathroom  and when I started asking for 1000 rs back, he said it wont be possible and he started backfiring as if I owe him something.For the first time I Came to know why he is Ugly..because of his Karma. I took all my luggage which is almost like lifting a heavy rock and  started  searching near to Brookfield ,where I saw an  Posh Society with full of amenities , but to my misfortune The fat woman owner told me to pay 6000 advance +Rent 6000+500 advance for the first day. I payed 500 and started calculating how much savings will happen how much will i be able to spend and how much il be able to send,I saw my entire Salary going. The very next day I started pondering my area  checking for some cheap room and while searching, a thought came in my mind that a friend of mine is staying here I called him and came to know that he is paying only 3700 and its near to his room only. After coming to his room only I came to know about his little evil plan, he wanted to get rid of one of his  irritating bald room mate who liked to take bath without soap and his hairfall was  very much visible on the floor.But here was another twist, I had to pay 80,000 Rs. to that room mate that he has given to the main owner, so that he can leave without questioning for the security deposit.That was really horrible experience, I felt that my own friend is using the very next day , I left him and since then I never saw him again.Fortunatly , I have taken all my luggage to my friends house and now I safely went to that fat lady's house to get my 500 Rs Back.. She started giving me big lecture.

"I trust you , you trust me.... U good, I good.. U bad I bad", fat lady replied.
"Ok ok ", I replied.
"Now you need to pay 6000 or else yout luggage stays here", fat lady replied.
"Ok, Il pay you, let me get it from the ATM", I replied.
As i was about to leave she saw that my luggage is already gone and she informed the security to stop me on the Gateway.5-6 sercurity guards holded me to the exit point , as if I stole something. I theathened the security to call the Police.Looking at my angry face and at my tone the security got scared and let me go.

After sometime I shifted to a Bengali PG , paying 6000.Unfortunately my roommate was a Smoker and I warned him that I dont want his smoke to breathe in the room as I am also paying the rent.From that day he stopped smoking. But as time went by, I felt as if he is ordering me , like close the door , keep your mobile volume low etc, but I took it lightly. The very next day he was browsing his Laptop late night and I had office the very next day, I was expecting him to switch of f the light  by 11:30 pm but this went on  till 1 Am  in the night. Loosing my patience, I shouted at him and forcibly shut down the light , again he switched it on and I simply slapped him out of rage. The Owner came, the lad also being a bengali, he supported him very much and threathened me not to touch our Bengali brothers.My first slap has changed him very much :P he used to switch off light by 10:30 PM and do his work in his laptop. After six months , I moved to One Reddy's PG which was  a 20 minute away from my office.The PG is brand new and as of now , I am enjoying staying there except for the Telugu guy who lacks Sense of  Understanding, by keeping Telugu Movie/Songs in High volume without caring if others are getinng disturbed.If i on the other hand do the same thing , he will start giving a big lecture.Here also he forced me to have a Verbal fight, from that moment he is quite, even I avoid speaking with him else he will take me for granted and start speaking nonsence.
I guess almost many people must have experienced this.Please share yours if you feel that yours is somewhat interesting then mine  :D